trauma dumping

Here is another very weird thing I have recently learned from my experiences with the olies n not goodies crowd. There is apparently a term called trauma dumping and although the term is new to me, the activity is not. See when I first wanted to get back into the world, people terrified me. And through some really good therapy and self reflection I was able to figure out why.

Since my injury, every time I met someone I had to tell them everything. The doctors and lawyers needed all of it, every meeting. And that made me relive the ordeal without any help in processing the trauma. THus the PTSD and massive anxiety attacks anytime I had to go to the doctor. Not to mention the repeat abuse by said doctors always hurting me and never helping me. My neuropathways for pain were very strong after 10 years of this repeated response to my behavior of meeting new people.

I worked with a few therapists for at least a year stopping myself from doing this behavior every time I met someone. It seems there are people who do this because they want to manipulate you and form those false relationships I talked about in yesterday’s post. They trauma dump, sharing everything over that first cup of coffee from stubbing your toe to rape and neglect. They want to form the cheap and fast connection that has no basis in anything except their trauma. They want you to know they are a victim so you can feel bad for them and give them so much damn grace you overlook the disgusting behavior they are trying to hide. Don’t fall for this ploy. RUN!!!! These people only share because they want your pity and support for thier bad behavior. Stop enabling them and t4ell them to seek therapy for their asshole behavior instead of attemtping to manipulate people with their trama.

Get over it while you are young because as soon as Altheimer’s kicks in, all your filters will be gone and you will start spewing that hate and grossness on those who are trying to help your old ass live a little longer. That’s why those people are so nasty, all filters are gone and it’s just their raw opinions and ideas about the world because they never dealt with their trauma and it’s everyone else’s fault. Check yourself..